Are you observing life
or engaging in it? What is social media doing for you? Or to you? Do you watch
others on Facebook with regret or envy? Don’t worry…. That is
totally normal. According to the Happiness Research Institute,
“Five out of 10 people envy the amazing experiences of others who post on
Facebook, while one out of three envy how happy other people seem on Facebook,
and four out of 10 envy the apparent success of others on Facebook.”
This is only exacerbated by the fact that people are very
selective about what they share through social media. According to the same
report, ‘69% prefer to post pictures of the great things they experience, and
61% prefer to post their good sides to Facebook’. It makes total sense. But the
cumulative effect of only showing the good stuff leads to increased stress,
anxiety, and loneliness for the viewer; forcing one to contemplate their
‘ordinary’ lives, which may actually be pretty good.
If you are a part of the 94% of people that check Facebook as
part of your daily routine, pay attention to the feelings you have spending
time browsing and posting to see if this is enhancing your relationships, or
robbing you of true connection and intimacy. Social media is an easy to way to
check-out from everyday interactions. But often the connection that we are seeking
online is all around us. We just have to be present and look around a little
bit.
Try this exercise: Every time you have the urge to check
social media, take a breath and think of something you are grateful for instead. Maybe even write
it all down at the end of the day. Review this gratitude journal regularly and
see if you feel differently.