Pleasing People--Upside and Downside

Let's start with the downside of pleasing. What is the cost to you to always please others? Do a bit of self-analysis on the test. Are you....

• Always putting everyone else's needs before your own?
• Always saying yes?
• Only feel important contributing to others?
• Worry how others will view you?
• Going out of your way for others & depending on their approval for your self-worth & self-esteem?
• Fear being disliked?
• Not being included in the group?
• Exhausted helping others?
• Not taking time for yourself?
• Not happy with your own life?

It may be time for a "Selfie Makeover". What do I mean? Well, the remedy may have to do with taking care of yourself first. Make sure some of the following considerations are on your personal list of wants and needs.

• Your needs are being met
• Have good boundaries
• Say no
• Speak up for yourself
• Be assertive
• Be expressive
• Feel & act empowered
• An internal locus of control matters more that approval from others
• Affirm myself for my accomplishments
• Proud of yourself
• Able to value yourself
• Feeling a sense of purpose & meaning in your life

Confidence means you can "do something", self-esteem means you feel good about what you do. Plan to spend more time building your self-esteem by acknowledging yourself and taking compliments sincerely. Why a Selfie? Because, Self matters!!!!