12 Charactertistics of a Self-Actualized Person

Even though we aren't all in the army, most of us are trying to 'be all you can be" in life. This pursuit is called self-actualization.

Abraham Maslow, the psychologist who defined self-actualization and the hierarchy of needs, believed that self-actualization can be achieved once all other needs are met. For those of us how have a stable food supply, safe shelter, and friends/family, the inner journey becomes imperative.

It is a constant striving to reach your full potential. People reach their personal mountaintop on different paths, but Maslow believed that the view was the same once at the summit. A realized self. He detailed them in the 12 characteristics of a self-actualized person:

1) Self-actualized people embrace the unknown and the ambiguous.
2) They accept themselves, together with all their flaws.
3) They prioritize and enjoy the journey, not just the destination.
 4) While they are inherently unconventional, they do not seek to shock or disturb.
5) They are motivated by growth, not by the satisfaction of needs.
6) Self-actualized people have purpose.
7) They are not troubled by the small things.
8) Self-actualized people are grateful.
9) They share deep relationships with a few, but also feel identification and affection towards the entire human race.
10) Self-actualized people are humble.
11) Self-actualized people do not allow themselves to be passively molded by culture.
12) Despite all this, self-actualized people are not perfect. 

How many of these characteristics do you embody? How do you strive to embody all of them? What must you do? What must you be?

Become a leader of your own life to find purpose and meaning. We all want greatness for our lives, but many obstacles can present themselves, and we are often the ones that put them there. Challenge yourself to always lead your life, not just robotically go along with old life scripts. It is easy to fall into routine and habit, and fall away from new and unknown.

It requires trust. Trust in yourself. A belief that you are capable of creating great change, that you are worth it, and that you deserve it.

So what do you need to remake yourself to be happy? How do you self-actualize? How do you rewrite the scripts of your life? Or just improvise instead?

Pip Biofeedback Relaxation

Biofeedback has come a long way. The purpose of biofeedback is to use body monitors to guide a person towards relaxation with immediate feedback of body tension and stress. That way, it is easy to listen to the body and direct it accordingly. After learning the tricks to calm the body, the tools are no longer necessary, and relaxation is achieved on command.

In the olden days, biofeedback was conducted with pulse monitors that beeped your heartbeat aloud, or other monitors that would gauge body temperature. The more anxious, pain, or fear; the greater measurements you receive. But recent technological innovations have brought a more engaging device, the Pip.

The idea is the same, using monitors to guide towards relaxation. But rather than a beep or flashing light, the Pip measures skin conductance or sweat gland activity. The Pip is used in conjunction with mobile apps to offer an interactive experience. For example, relax and turn an icy landscape into a blooming spring scene. Or relax to guide a hot air balloon across the sky. The more relaxed... the faster you accomplish your goal.

It teaches the user to control the body's stress and tension through direct feedback, at which point each person can direct themselves to a more relaxed state. The Pip trains a person to refocus, relax, and regain control of their own physiology. Then... relaxation will prevail.

Wouldn't it be nice to have control over your body's tension and relaxation? Click here to learn more with the 7-day Pip Guide

Meditate? Who Me?

Yes, you! Learn to meditate and practice There is now abundant research and evidence that meditation is incredibly helpful for happiness, stress management, relaxation, health and peace of mind. With meditation, you can learn to turn off the inevitable “monkey mind” that keeps you up at night, anxious and stressed.

Not only will you notice a difference in your mood and focus, but your brain will actually change. Check out the brain scans below. Meditation wakes up more parts of the brain, connects both hemispheres, and leads to a better, more balanced, functioning system. The parts of the brain that are more active in a meditating brain have shown to improve self-regulation, reduce stress and fear responses, and improve memory. Meditation can significantly change the brain wave patterns within 15 minutes. And while this is an image of a brain during meditation, researchers also found that the benefits of meditation can lead to more permanent changes in the brain, actually restructuring your brain! For more info on this, click here.


All you have to do is... nothing... for 15-25 minutes a day. Give it a shot and see how you feel.