Tuesday, May 31, 2016

The Company You Keep

Take time to examine the current relationships you have that are positive, encouraging and healthy vs. relationships that have negative associations. Think of the image of Superman and Kryptonite as a metaphor.

Who or what experiences strengthen or weaken you? My strategy is to examine those relationships that you initiate, look forward to, enjoy and then feel great afterward. Then look at those that cause your stomach to churn and feel draining and distressing before, during and after. The message... pursue those that enliven you, avoid those that deaden. With the right company, you will feel supported to become the best version of yourself!

Monday, May 2, 2016

Unplug to Connect

A Gallup poll last year found that 73% percent of Americans ages 18 to 29 checked their devices a few times an hour – including 22% every few minutes. 59% of respondents ages 30 to 49 said they looked at their phones a few times an hour.

What explains their appeal? With the onset of smart phones and devices, the opportunity to socialize with each other, face-to-face, is increasingly rare. Sad but very true. Now, Facebook is actually creating depression as people compare themselves to others and feel left out, lower self-esteem and even jealous.

In a 2015 study by the Pew Research Center, 89% of cell phone owners said they had used their phones during the last social gathering they attended. But they weren’t happy about it; 82% of adults felt that the way they used their phones in social settings hurt the conversation.

More frequently in our practice, we see that this problem is become more serious being so connected to social media. In essence, you are removed you from true interaction and experiences by recording them instead of really being present. Last week I actually heard a broadcast describing how with everyone looking down all the time as in this photo, there are moves to place walk/don't walk signals in the sidewalk. 

Try unplugging and see what happens to your emotions, relationships and happiness.

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