Saturday, August 30, 2014

What is your FUN QUOTIENT? (FQ)

We measure IQ, EQ, how about FQ? Today is a good day to take accountability of the fun you are having in your life. Think about the amount of time you decide to dedicate to whatever you consider to be fun. You can actually calculate your FQ by keeping track of the number of hours you spend in a week doing things that are fun and then applying that number to the following equation:
______ ÷ 168 hours per week
= ______ Fun Quotient (# of fun hours per week)
Does your number seem high or low? At least taking time to examine your own perception of the fun you are experiencing in your life may lead to a change in your daily activities and planning. Take a look at your calendar and see if you have written or scheduled any fun into your week. Do you think or talk about your fun activities with friends, partner or family?
Jumping for joy fun may not be your goal for fun, just find your groove to enhance the fun in your life. Fun is a counter balance for stress. What form does your fun take; sleep, art, baking, music, exercise, competing in races, travel, playing with your pet, shopping, trying new coffee houses, playing sports, boating, skiing, hiking or just relaxing without guilt. See what you can do to boost your FQ score. Talk about FQ with others for ideas. Lastly, if you have to do all of your work, chores and obligations before fun, you will never get to it. 

Saturday, August 16, 2014

Change........are you with it or against it?

Change is inevitable. What is your stance when it comes to initiating, facing or managing change in your life? Are your excited and positive or fearful and negative. Do you embrace change as a opportunity or a threat? These questions are very relevant when it comes to developing your confidence and self-esteem.
Of course, change can come from many directions. Some is self-guided or initiated,  at other times, changed is from the outside and forced. How you react to change usually derives from you belief systems. When you feel a sense of purpose, get positive reinforcement and build skills from trying new things, the world opens up. On the other had, if you were taught to believe change is bad or scary, resistance and fear will result. 
As you examine your life, consider what you might want to change to improve your life, career, and/or relationships. In the 1970'2, James Prochaska and Carlo DiClemente developed a change model for smoking cessation. The model provides a theoretical framework for you to apply to moving forward with initiating change in your life. It begins by understanding that you may not be aware of problems or issues that need to be addressed. This is PRECONTEMPLATION. Once you proceed to the CONTEMPLATION phase, you begin to consider ideas about things you  might want or need to do. This may include gaining new skills, changing jobs, exercising or having more fun in your life. Once contemplation has ripened, the PREPARATION phase begins. This may include taking classes, getting a personal trainer, pursuing a graduate degree, moving or looking for a new job by updating your resume or contacting a head hunter. Once the preparation phase has been completed, you take ACTION to make things happen. that you prepared for. This would be engagement and doing the work required for the changes your pursued. The last phase is MAINTENANCE, to keep up the action you have chosen. Step into change rather than wait for change to happen to you. Resistance to change is usually rooted in fear. What fears do you need to face today?
Avoidance is futile. Therapy and coaching can help you manage the process.

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