Monday, February 24, 2014

Happiness Ingredients

As you look at this graphic of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, Where are you? Working on your higher purpose may seem distant and something you do in the future, however, this can create huge problems for your happiness now. What Maslow said was, "what a man can be, he must be." This means now, not later in life. Taking the perspective of living a life of self-actualization of realization of achieving your highest needs in your life. If you believe you will be happy make so much money, raise your children, get a promotion, marry, divorce or achieve some magical sum of savings in your bank account, you are probably on the wrong track. Postponing fun, travel, and really living creates regrets. Pursue what makes you feel free, happy and creative as possible. When you are stress, worried, anxious or fearful, this is the time to explore how to transcend those blocks. Try considering these 8 ways to self-actualize. Let's talk about how to make your life one of purpose.
1.  Experience things fully, vividly, and selflessly. Throw yourself into the experiencing of something: concentrate on it fully, let it totally absorb you.
2.  Life is an ongoing process of choosing between safety (out of fear and need for defense) and risk (for the sake of progress and growth): Make the growth choice a dozen times a day.
3.  Let the self emerge. Try to shut out the external clues as to what you should think, feel, say, and so on, and let your experience enable you to say what you truly feel.
4.   When in doubt, be honest. If you look into yourself and are honest, you will also take responsibility. Taking responsibility is self-actualizing.
5.  Listen to your own tastes. Be prepared to be unpopular.
6.  Use your intelligence, work to do well the things you want to do, no matter how insignificant they seem to be.
7.  Make peak experiencing more likely: get rid of illusions and false notions. Learn what you are good at and what your potentialities are not.
8.  Find out who you are, what you are, what you like and don't like, what is good and what is bad for you, where you are going, what your mission is. Opening yourself up to yourself in this way means identifying defenses--and then finding the courage to give them up.

Sunday, February 23, 2014 associated to anxiety, alcohol & drug problems

This cartoon validates the research done at Washington University Medical School mood regulation. According to the researchers, smoking/cigarettes use is undeniably linked to anxiety, depression and use of drugs and alcohol. Nicotine acts to neutralize unwanted emotions by getting to the pleasure center of the brain in about 6 seconds thereby impacting emotions such as anxiety, anger, stress, boredom. Of course, these emotions never get resolved and make the mood problems persist. In fact, the article suggests that to help impact and help people with anxiety moods, smoking addiction MUST be tackled first. The research article recently published online Journal of  Psychological Medicine states that, quitting smoking is linked to better mental health. The study showed that there were significant declines in anxiety, drug and alcohol use. I would add that pain management also fits into this category. Smoking is a distraction from the pain and mood, which delays and can actually prevent healing physically and emotionally.
 "Over 3 years, people who stopped smoking reported a drop in mood disorders, alcohol and drug problems." 
  • "According to the study, "clinicians tend to treat the depression, alcohol dependence or drug problem first and allow patients to 'self-medicate' with cigarettes if necessary," lead investigator Patricia Cavazos-Rehg, an assistant professor of psychiatry, said in the news release. "The assumption is that psychiatric problems are more challenging to treat and that quitting smoking may interfere with treatment." Actually, "these findings suggest a strong link between quitting smoking and improved mental health." To view the article click on the link to this link. Smoking; Mood Study Article
  • Just found an article on Regrets.....below are 2 of the 11 top picks. Smoking ranked #1 and #9 of the 11.  If you want to know all 11 regrets, this is the link: Most Common Regrets
    1. Smoking. A solid 88 percent of the smokers in the survey said they regret taking up smoking.
    2. Not quitting smoking earlier. So smoking was the number one regret on the list... but this point shows even people who *beat* smoking have regrets.

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