Monday, September 24, 2012

So, What is Emotional Intelligence?

According to Daniel Goleman, Ph.D., there are three basic concepts to stress, Emotional Intelligence (EQ) and optimal performance. By the way, Emotional Intelligence and Intelligence (IQ) are not connected.
  1. Becoming aware of your emotions.
  2. Self-regulating your emotions.
  3. Recognize and empathize with the emotions of others.
Emotional Intelligence is learning how to "read" and understand emotions that are being communicated or passed along. The ability to read body language, facial expressions, tone of voice, but especially the underlying emotions of any communication stand as the most prominent components. Most people are able to tell you what they think of something readily, but not paying attention to the emotion behind the content. Teaching yourself to recognize emotions, then reflect them empathetically is a great place to start with your spouse, partner, children or colleagues.
Moving smoothly through social situations, managing your behavior to increase personal and social competence contains these qualities.
  • Self-Awareness
  • Self-Management
  • Social Awareness,
  • Relationship Management. 
In a new book, Emotional Intelligence 2.0 Bradberry and Greaves give you a model for enhancing your EQ. The tree graphic illustrated many of the unique aspects or components of EQ. With practice you can develop the fundamentals of EQ, increase interpersonal flexibility and connection. Coaching can help you tune in, control and empathize with others. This will build relationships and your career.

Thursday, September 6, 2012

How do you balance work and home?

Is it time to reclaim control of your life? Stress will soar when you get out of balance. Take a few moment to examine the costs and benefits of examining your relationship to work, home and personal relationships. I read a quote recently by Lori Deschene stating that, "the vast majority of people I know have two different types of work: the kind that pays the bills and the kind they wrap their heart around. " Take a moment to reflect on the harmony, intensity and balance of your life. If you feel burnt out, stressed, missing friends, unable to relax, having problems with sleep, experiencing anxiety, depression or problems with pain, then there is a good chance your life is out of balance. Here are some tips to consider to get back into balance.

  1. Build downtime into your life and schedule. 
  2. Drop activities, friends and habits that sap your time and energy.
  3. Rethink your priorities.
  4. Do nothing all day and then relax.
  5. Get support, coaching or counseling to resolve conflicts.
  6. Plan fun.
  7. Make a Bucket list and start working on making it a reality.
  8. Reconnect socially.
  9. Go offline with phone, computer, email with any and all work projects.
  10. Get creative with new or challenging activities.
So, seek out harmony to warm your heart and soul. The work will always be there tomorrow, marriages, health or friends may move on if you do not attend to keeping your heart happy.

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