Dalai Lama's 18 Rules for Living



At the start of the new millennium the Dalai Lama apparently issued eighteen rules for living. See how these work with your value system. I believe these rules are both inspiring and fundamental for happiness and a good life.

1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.
3. Follow the three Rs:
1. Respect for self
2. Respect for others
3. Responsibility for all your actions.

4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
7. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
8. Spend some time alone every day.
9. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.
10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
11. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.
12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
13. In disagreements with loved ones deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.
14. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.
15. Be gentle with the earth.
16. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.
17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

New Referral Alliance


We are please to announce that we are working with Health Connections, a home nursing company. From their website, I have copied the essence of their company.

"We are a provider of high-risk obstetrical homecare services for pregnant women in the Houston, Texas and Dallas-Fort Worth areas. Our company is committed to providing the highest quality homecare services to our pregnant patients. Through the use of our 24 Hour-a-Day/7 Day-a-Week Call Center, staffed by Registered Nurses with unparalleled experience in high-risk obstetrical care, Healthy Connections believes that we can help women and their unborn babies achieve the best possible pregnancy outcome without unnecessary hospital visits and expenses."

We are excited to be a referral source for the mental, emotional needs of their patients. Please check out their website at:http://www.hchcs.com/

The exciting thing about this affiliation is that we are going to be using teletherapy (internet based treatment) to help women on bed rest with high risk pregnancy problems. This is a really unique approach to psychotherapy and assessment moving toward the adjunctive treatment alternatives.

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COMPULSIVE HOARDING SIGNS

 In an article today in USA Today, It's called a hidden epidemic," said Megan O'Bryan, an Indianapolis clinical psychologist who specializes in obsessive-compulsive disorder and hoarding. "Hoarders are reluctant to reveal it. They are embarrassed by it but don't want to seek treatment." The roots of this problem lie in a diagnosis of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. These are the signs as reported by the International Obsessive Compulsive Disorder Association.

Accumulating of large amounts of clutter in the home, office or car, making it difficult to move around easily.
• Having difficulty getting rid of possessions because of an emotional attachment to them.
• Not being able to stop taking free items.
• Buying too many items because they are bargains or to stock up.
• Not inviting family or friends into the home because of embarrassment.
• Losing important items like money or bills in the clutter.
• Feeling overwhelmed by the volume of possessions that have taken over.



Source: International Obsessive Compulsive Disorder Foundation

If you, or some one you know suffers from this problem, get help. A combination of medication and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can relieve a lot of suffering. This is a painful and difficult problem that requires professional intervention.

6 Components to Aging Well


So, how do you feel about aging? Is your body holding up? Do you know what to do to help maximize aging well? Here are 6 components to aging with grace. Examine how you are doing with respect to each of these elements for yourself.

1) Relationships
2) Exercise
3) Eating right
4) Sleep
5) Novelty
6) Awarenes
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Od course, the objective is to maintain each one of these elements in your life. Let's talk about how to help you get on the right track for "awesome, rewarding and healthy aging."

What are your needs?


Take a moment to review this diagram. This is an overview of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs.

The basis of Maslow's motivation theory is that human beings are motivated by unsatisfied needs, and that certain lower factors need to be satisfied before higher needs can be satisfied. According to Maslow, there are general types of needs (physiological, survival, safety, love, and esteem) that must be satisfied before a person can act unselfishly. He called these needs "deficiency needs." As long as we are motivated to satisfy these cravings, we are moving towards growth, toward self-actualization.

Examine where you are on the scale to determine what needs will help you achieve personal growth. To motivate yourself, it is important to work to satisfy your inner needs. What is holding you back from achieving self-actualization?