Web Secret #111: 6 People Who Rock the Net


What an honor!!! Marina London, award winning blogger and computer guru has just listed me as one of her top people who rock on the net. Be sure to check out and subscribe to her up to date, informative, interesting, fun, creative, amazingly useful blog at: www.iWebU.blogspot.com. Here is the text of blog #111:

Part of my job is looking over hundreds of websites, blogs, Face Book pages, Twitters, and more every month. With that much on my plate, I only follow a very small group of experts on a regular basis. This blog post honors this select group:

1. Bill O'Hanlon - When I grow up, I want to be Bill O'Hanlon and it's not just because he lives in my favorite place in the whole world, Santa Fe. Bill is a therapist, an "A list" speaker, and a writer extraordinaire. In addition, he is a master marketer and has figured out how to make the World Wide Web and social media work for him. Visit www.billohanlon.com and you will discover his whirlwind of blogs, international speaking engagements, published books, newsletters, and more. Bill's Tech Boot Camp opened my eyes to blogging and social media in January 2008. Thank you Bill!

2. DeeAnna Nagel - Want to know what we will be doing in 2020 or 2030? DeeAnna knows...and she's probably doing it already. DeeAnna is one of the visionaries behind the Online Therapy Institute and the author of the recently published Therapy Online: A Practical Guide. When she isn't traveling around delivering important presentations, DeeAnna is hosting conferences and providing consultation in Second Life, a virtual world where OTI owns its own virtual building. So cool.

3. Jeff Bulla - Jeff is an internet and social media expert living in Sydney, Australia. He updates his eponymous blog JeffBullas.com brilliantly, virtually every day and I read it - every day - carefully. He mostly writes about how corporations use social media, or has advice about how they should use social media. His stuff is relevant to anyone trying to enhance their business and their branding - regardless of their field. His blog is my bible.

4. Will Baum - Will is a psychotherapist based in Los Angeles and the mind behind Where the Client Is. I am not sure exactly what Where the Client Is, is - is it a website, a blog, an online magazine, or something else? Who knows and who cares. All I know is it's the go to resource to build your private practice.

5. Michael Klaybor - Another new technology pioneer, Mike used his clinical expertise and fluent Russian to become one of the very first psychologists to deliver international consultation via Skype. He also creatively harnessed Twitter and blogging to provide support and counseling to the many isolated and anxious high risk pregnant women on bed rest via iRestAssured. Mike is an early adopter and can be relied upon to have the latest gadget, or gizmo du jour. He creates podcasts, webcasts, and has a black belt in karate. He is from the Midwest and speaks Russian. He reliably amazes me.

6. Gary Vaynerchuk - Gary sells wine. Why is he on my list? As a very young man, Gary was dragged into the family business, a local liquor store called Shoppers Discount Liquors. In 2006, Gary launched Wine Library TV, a daily video blog about wine. He could be seen in jeans and a t-shirt, sitting in his back yard, schmoozing expertly about wine. By 2008, this video trailblazer had raised the annual revenue of the store from $4 million to $60 million. You can watch Gary talk about wine, social media, and pursuing your dream on his website. Want to be inspired, entertained, and educated about the potential of social media to gain exposure? Visit GaryVaynerchuk.com.

May the Net be with you.

Inner Mental Training for Athletes Overview


A right mindset is one of the determinants of an athlete's performance, right along with his or her physical condition and technical skills. Just as there is a set of well-known physical characteristics of a champion (i.e., strength, speed, and stamina), there is a set of mental factors identified as part of a winner's mindset. They are confidence, concentration, consistency and control. Mindset is important for several reasons. Often this is the factor is the difference between being good or the best.
Research has revealed that at least 50 percent of athletic performance successes and even more athletic performance errors and failures are due to mental factors. Often times, talents plus physical and technical training can take athletes and teams only so far before they reach a performance plateau. Mental training will carry athletes to the next level.
In their practices, mental training for athletes incorporates many psychological principles, such as behavioral analysis, anxiety, arousal, attention, motivation, and aggression, personality assessment for individuals, and leadership and cohesion for teams. The specific techniques used in mental conditioning or inner mental training include:
• Autogenic Training: Learn about personal physiological responses to stress in order to control those responses.
• Imagery/Simulation: Mental rehearsal your performance.
• Positive Visualization: "See" yourself perform with excellence in your mind.
• Relaxation Training: Use various relaxation methods to help with consistency and performance.
• Concentration Training: Learn to tune out distracters and develop focusing strategies.
• Positive Thought Training / Cognitive Restructuring: Change thinking patterns: Catch negative thoughts and stop them; think positive instead.
• Biofeedback for relaxation
• Hypnosis for inner control
• Confidence Training: Develop your own way of building confidence.
• Emotion Regulation Training: Learn to regulate emotional responses to situations during competitions.
• Goal Setting: High but attainable goals often best motivate athletes.
• Thought Stopping and Cognitive Behavioral Control

Are You Addicted to the Past?

A very interesting article came my way that I want to share. In the Huffington Post http://www.huffingtonpost.com/, there is a concept for you to consider to see if you are stuck or plagued by problems in the past or unable to disconnect from bad feelings and a history of trauma.

Ask yourself, these 6 questions:

1. You Constantly Talk About the Past and the Way Things Used to Be
2. You Resist Change
3. You Continually Fail to Plan for a Better Future
4. You Argue for the Past that Things Used to Be Better
5. You've Allowed Relationships to Become Stale, Uninteresting and Without Passion
6. You have Physically or Mentally Peaked

So, do you suffer from an Addiction to the Past? If so, time to embrace change and move on.  

The article: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/tom-ferry/self-help-are-you-addicte_b_631620.html

Alcohol Use/Abuse in Families



If you know you have a family history of alcohol dependency, it may be important to examine your own drinking patterns. There are studies to show that if you are raised in a alcoholic home, you are at double the risk of becoming an alcoholic yourself. There is a very simple way to begin to explore if you have a problem. The assessment is called the CAGE Questionnaire. There are four questions to respond yes or no.

1) Have you felt you should CUT down on your drinking?
2) Have people ANNOYED you by criticizing your drinking?
3) Have you ever felt bad or GUILTY about your drinking?
4) Have you ever used alcohol first thing in the morning to steady your nerves or get rid of a hangover?


If you answered yes to any of the 4 questions, you may want to speak to a counselor. Check out a book by Bert Pluymen, "The Thinking Man's Guide to Sobriety," to get an in depth perspective.

Mental Health is America


As you can see by the chart on the right, Americans suffer a long time with mental health problems before ever getting help. On the average, people suffering from depression, generalized anxiety disorder or substance about take about 9 years to get help. As you can see, almost 17% of the US population suffers from depression. The tragedy is two fold to me. 1) mental health problems are very treatable with today's methods, and 2) waiting 5 to 23 years before getting treatment is a lot of undue suffering.

Studies have shown that treatment for depression or anxiety can be reduced by as much as 45% with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). With medication, symptoms can also be reduced by 40-45%. When you combine CBT with medication, the treatment efficacy virtually doubles. If you, a family member feel anxious, depressed or are experiencing any of the other problems listed on this chart, get help. Both Dr. Gayle and Dr. Mike Klaybor specialize in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Don't wait. The sooner you start treatment, the better you will feel. There is no need to suffer with these problems any longer than you already have.