Happy New Year

It is time to reflect on the past year and your life mission or purpose. Asking yourself some basic questions is a good place to start.

1) Are you finding meaning in your life?
2) Are you experiencing pleasure?
3) Are you "engaged"?


Happiness is a by product of having meaning, pleasure and being engaged. If you find you are lacking in any of these 3 areas, consider what will help you get there. A balanced life of social, spiritual, physical and emotional components will give you an opportunity to achieve happiness.


Have a magical and productive new year!!!!





Wellness Program in Russia

Attached is a copy of the newsletter from the Wellness Program that we have been working on in the past year. We are very excited about the fact that the program has been extended for 2 more years. We are working with local psychologists, doctors, Human Resources, Health and Safety, IT to coordinate a comprehensive Wellness program. Enjoy reading!

Learning to Deal with Verbal Abuse


Patricia Evans, author of "The Verbally Abusive Relationship" explains abuse victims don't realize that the problem isn't theirs.: it's in the abuser's need to dominate and control.

Hallmarks of verbal abuse:

  • It's hostile.
  • It's unpredictible.
  • It's manipulative and controlling.
  • It happens when no one else is around.
  • The victim feels confused and surprised.
  • The words are hurtful.

What can you do? Respond with;
Stop it! or Don't talk to me like that.
Don't defend or explain, the abuser is not interested in understanding you, just control you.


  • Listen to your feelings and believe them.
  • Remove yourself if you assess the situation as dangerous.
  • Verbal abuse is a doorway to physical abuse, so take steps to be safe.
  • Get support through a therapist and/or support group.
  • Seek information.

When you calmly stand up for yourself and refuse to be goaded into defending or explaining, the abuser typically gives up.        We can help!!!!

Wellness Program in Russia


As many of you may remember, last July I was in Russia for my third trip developing a wellness program, training psychologists and medical doctors in western methods of psychological assessment, treatment, stress management, smoking cessation and intake procedures. The flyer you are looking at is this blog is the new newsletter that was a part of our promotional program.

It is so exciting to see these programs coming to fruition. In fact, just yesterday, we were notified that the program will be extended for two more years. It is a great experience and opportunity for me to work in another culture and use my Russian language skill.

How are you doing on your own wellness program? Maybe it is time to start some personal wellness projects for yourself.

Teletherapy



At Klaybor and Klaybor Psychotherapy Services, we can deliver a series of Teleheath programs and services to you. This may include weekly, online therapy via Voice-over Internet Protocol (VoIP) platforms, information blogs, a series of content-based podcasts and videocasts, even maintenance of social private chat rooms to keep your informed.Skype is a free software program that allows us to meet over the internet using a video camera can bring a psychotherapist into your office or home in and provide psychotherapy with the latest technology.

Skype software is used to provide a one-on-one web based counseling session. It is an effective Voice-over Internet Protocal (VoIP) platform that is easy to use and completely free. We can provide mental health services to anyone with a computer, broadband internet connection, webcam, and microphone. Click on the Skype logo in blue to go directly to their website and signup. You just need a screen name and password to get started.

Online counseling, or “Teletherapy,” is when a professional counselor or psychotherapist talks with a client over the Internet to give emotional support, mental health assessment, goal setting and a treatment plan. This process can be one question or an ongoing conversation; it could be by an iChat, telephone conference or even Voice-over Internet Protocol (VoIP) or use of your computer to make a call for computer to computer connection.

Teletherapy is a viable alternative to therapy in person, especially when medical complications can limit a person’s ability to see a therapist in person. Teletherapy is a source of help when traditional psychotherapy is not accessible. It’s effective. It’s confidential. Skilled, licensed, qualified, and ethical professionals conduct your Teletherapy. And for some people, it’s the only way they can get help from a professional therapist.Call or Skype us for details. You will just set an appointment for an online session. We will get you an overview of informed consent to use this therapy modality.


Thanksgiving Week and Gratitude


The Thanksgiving holiday is a great time to take stock in the blessings in your life. Let your dearest friends and family know what you are thankful for at this time in your life.

"As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them. " John Fitzgerald Kennedy  I believe that love is a verb, not a noun, so be sure to put your gratitude and thanks into action.

Happy Thanksgiving!!!

YIKES!!!! Heavy Smoking in Midlife Doubles the Risk for Alzheimer's Disease



Medscape reported a recent study by Hien T. Nghiem, MD, that showed that participants who smoked more than 2 packs per day in middle age had a more than 100% increased risk for dementia, Alzheimer's Disease, AD, and vascular dementia, compared with those who said that they were never smokers. Individuals who had quit by the time they took the survey, however, did not have a greater risk compared with never smokers, Dr. Whitmer noted.
The finding, from a large cohort of more than 20,000 people, suggests that the brain is not immune to long-term consequences of heavy smoking.

"That's an important message. It shows that there is definitely a benefit to quitting," she said.
It is never to late to quit. Why not start now or get a loved one to reduce their chances of Alzheimer's Disease. We doing have a smoking cessation program at Klaybor and Klaybor. Call for more information.

Kids pick up on parents' stress, survey finds

USA Today has an article by Sharon Jayson describing the stress reactions of children when parents are stressed.

"Parents may think they're shielding their kids from worry and stress, but a report to be released today by the American Psychological Association finds they don't do a very good job of hiding their stress from their children."

Ninety-one percent of 1,136 young people ages 8-17 surveyed cite ways they know parents are stressed, largely by their behavior.

The online survey, conducted by Harris Interactive in August, shows:
34% say parents yell.

30% say parents argue with other people in the household.
18% say parents are too busy or "don't have time for me."

The message from the consulting psychologist is:
"It's actually better to talk with your kids about the fact that the parent is having challenges," he says. "The key message is 'We're going to address these difficulties and we'll be OK. We'll get through this.”


So, take time to talk and reassure your children or they will suffer.

Crash Course on Social Media

It is time to get your geek skills up to speed. This program will provide an overview of basic social media methods and then a hands on workshop to teach you how to do a blog, Tweet, Skype (free internet video calling), and many more. This workshop is for mental health professionals or organizations wanting to develop or understand the use and impact of social media.

"INTERNATIONAL ASSIGNMENTS: GETTING WHAT YOU PAY FOR...INSTEAD OF PAYING FOR WHAT YOU GET - - A Management view, from going... to coming back".


I will be a presenter on an esteemed panel of speakers at the Global HR Conference in Houston on 11/10/2010. An overview is below. The topic is regarding expatriates and issues that arise.
International assignments are expensive, and failed or compromised assignments are especially expensive. Corporations and management are only recently starting to come to grips with some of the actual cost elements and expenses.
Current research, for example clearly demonstrates that of the failed or compromised assignments, 67% are due to family adjustment and family support problems, which are also ranked as the number one challenge expats report.

Neill Carson will discuss tools and programs that foster the success of the assignment by “supporting in” rather than “screening out” expat candidates and the incredible cost-benefit ratio and return on investment for involving and supporting families in this process.
Sara Rozin will address the importance of not only understanding the culture of one’s host country, but also the importance of understanding oneself in the context of culture: cultural self- awareness.

Dr. Klaybor will discuss the importance of pre-departure preparation and planning, the in-country support services currently available, and the positive impact these efforts have on assignment success.

Finally, Ken Burgess and Neill Carson will review the “repat” (coming back home) process. According to current (HR) literature, one-third of those experiencing an expatriate assignment leave their companies as unhappy employees within 12-months of returning home, an extraordinary expense in terms of both money and talent! Burgess and Carson will discuss the repat process, and will highlight a new tool and innovative process aimed at eliminating the preventable attrition and losses from the coming home process.

Upcoming Workshop: Crash Course on Social Media


On December 3rd, 2010, Dr. Mike and Marina London will be conducting a 7 hour training program for mental health and employee assistance professionals at the Council on Alcohol and Drugs Houston. The conference is sponsored by the Houston Chapter of the Employee Assistance Professionals Association.

Check out the flyer for details.

Dr. Gayle Klaybor selected to the Association of Social Work Boards

A special group was honored for being selected to be item writers for the National Association of Social Workers licensing exam. This is quite an honor to participate in this process.


Applicants must undergo a competitive screening process that matches demographics, areas of expertise, and aptitude as demonstrated by an assessment instrument with the current needs of the organization. The pool of writers must be well-balanced for diversity in many areas.

What a great honor and recognition for Dr. Gayle.

iRestAssured Program

This is our new program. Take a look and please send it on to anyone you feel might benefit.

Have a seat....let's talk....online.

Klaybor and Klaybor is proud to announce that we are collaborating with Healthy Connections, a home nursing agency to provide some state of the art mental health treatment. The program is called, iRestAssured. It is a program that utilizes web-based, face-to-face, and telephone consultations to assess and treat some of the problems related to high risk pregnancy.

Stress, life changes and family concerns related to complications such as Preterm Labor, Pregnancy Induced Hypertension and Hyperemesis, can lead to loss of independence, loss of a stable job, loss of income, and changes in family dynamics. All of these can lead to additional stress and emotions making it difficult to cope with the day to day life throughout the pregnancy. We can help. By using Skype, a free, encrypted (safe and secure) program, we can conduct video assessment and treatment. Check out Healthy Connections at: www.hchcs.com or our blog at: www.iRestAssured.blogspot.com.

It is now possible to get help to manage stress, anxiety or depression from your own home on utilizing your computer. We can bring psychotherapy to your home. Call us for more information at 713-621-2490.


Keys to happiness: Altruism and a non-neurotic spouse

Elizabeth Weise reported in an article in USA Today, that researchers, in Germany, Holland and Australia, worked from the German Socieo-Economic Panel Survey, which has been doing every-five-year interviews with Germans since 1984 and currently has over 60,000 people enrolled. Here are some of the core findings of their research.
Want to be happy? A 26-year study of Germans suggests it's not that hard:

  • Marry someone who's not neurotic.
  • Focus more on friends and family, less on material goods.
  • Get involved in making the world a better place.
  • Have a job but also enough time for leisure.
  • Stay physically active.
  • For men, don't be underweight. For women, don't be obese.
Now is the time, meaning today to begin to take steps to ensure your own happiness. Although you may be where you want to be, perhaps you can get starting today.

As the photo symbolizes, happiness is in your hands.


Hypnosis and Weight Loss


I get many requests to help people lose weight using hypnosis. So, how well does it work? What can you expect? What is the success rate?

The answers are as follows:

1) Hypnosis is an adjunct to a weight loss program. It is NOT the only element needed to lose weight. The is no magic bullet. Weight loss is really life style change. A good weight loss plan or program needs to include a very detailed and consistent exercise program of at least 3 days a week, a healthy diet or nutrition plan, support (like Weight Watchers or Overeaters Anonymous (OA), caloric reduction in the vicinity of 1200-1500 per day, and mood management. Getting a baseline of caloric intake is important understand. Writing down everything you eat for 1 week helps raise awareness and benchmark your "normal" fat gram and calorie intake.

2) Since food is mood in many cases, exploring the emotions associated with eating is another essential component. This is where counseling is helpful. Creating a weight loss plan and establishing a team of support enhances success. A nutritionist, personal trainer, support group and help from family and friends creates the basics for a team to help you.

3) Hypnosis helps curb cravings, urges and automatic or unconscious eating. Hypnosis also provides insight into new ways to mentally rehearse your new eating and exercise habits. Breaking patterns my making new associations and replacing old behavior is improved with the use of trance.

Take a moment to review this side-by-side diet comparison for Drew Carey, the comedian who recently lost 72 pounds. His advice is simple, make a 100% commitment and quit rewarding yourself with food.

Pregnancy the First 9 Months


In this weeks Time Magazine Article, Annie Murphy Paul writes, "the kind, and quantity of nutrition you received in the womb; the pollutants, drugs and infections you were exposed to during gestation; your's mother's health, stress level and state of mind while she was pregnant with you--all these factors shaped you s a baby and a child and continue to affect you to this day." With Healthy Connections medical, nursing and psychological care, you can make the prenatal experience one that shapes a healthier baby.

Temperament of the baby has been found to be linked to the mother's mood. The article basically states that the healthier the mother, the healthier the baby. Take care of yourself, watch your nutrition, exercise and take care of your emotional wellbeing for the sake of your baby. The healthier you are, the better it is for you both!

Subscribe to Podcasts of Blogs



Did you know that you can sign up for podcasts of our Blogs through iTunes? Simply click on "Subscribe to this Podcast" You can listen at your leisure to our blogs.

Website---New Feature


Effective immediately, new patients can fill out all intake and registration forms online and email them to our office to save time at their first appointment. In addition, there is a release and information about our Teletherapy services and program. An informed consent is attached explaining the advantages of using the internet for psychotherapy when face to face sessions are not possible.

Meditation and the Brain



The research is clear, meditation helps the brain, blood flow, improves the immune system and much.

“Given the popularity and effectiveness of meditation as a means of alleviating stress and maintaining good health, there is a pressing need for a rigorous investigation of how it affects brain function,” says Professor Jim Lagopoulos. “Previous studies have shown that theta waves indicate deep relaxation and occur more frequently in highly experienced meditation practitioners. The source is probably frontal parts of the brain, which are associated with monitoring of other mental processes.”

“When we measure mental calm, these regions signal to lower parts of the brain, inducing the physical relaxation response that occurs during meditation.”

Give it a try. Meditation is good for your brain and health.

Book on Leadership--How good are you at REALLY leading your life?


In a recent book, The Secrets of Resilient Leadership: When Failure Is Not an Option.Six Essential Characteristics for Leading in Adversity by by Ph.D. George S. Everly Jr.,Ph.D. Douglas A. Strouse,George S. Everly III, six essential principles of leadership are reviewed. They are as follows:

1) following the moral compass of integrity,
2) using the power of communication,
3) optimism, and the self-fulfilling prophecy,
4) taking responsibility for one's actions,
5) building a resilient culture, and
6) honing physical health as a competitive advantage.


Take a moment to reflect on these principles to consider how successful you are at following these concepts in your job, marriage, family and health. Once you engage in actualizing these principles, your happiness will improve.

MOSCOW, RUSSIA: Urgent Need for EAP Russia’s natural resources are without parallel, but its human capital is at major risk


Not too long ago, working with colleagues Sara Rozin, Ken Burgess, Chestnut EAP, Corp Health and Harris Rothenburg International, we helped create and train 11 psychologists in Moscow about employee assistance. Once marvelous thing about this training is that it was all conducted over the internet using Skype (a videocast) and Webex. These are programs that use video to see each participant, exchange files, and conduct real time presentations. The ability to talk, present and see presenters and participants.

We trained psychologists on the essence of employee assistance, tracking procedures, evaluation and brief therapy concepts. This was innovative and a great way to teach about western methods of psychotherapy and treatment. Here are a few excerpts from the article by David A. Sharar, PhD, and Alexander Shtoulman, MD.

"Until recently, Employee Assistance Programs or EAP in Russia was virtually an unknown concept primarily offered to expatriate workers, not the local national workforce.

However, over the past few years, EAP has become a part of the employee benefits package being offered by just a few U.S. based multinationals in Russia to local hires, or Russian workers. Foreign companies that operate in Russia seem particularly aware of the toll of excessive alcohol consumption and psychosocial stress among workers as they grapple with safety and productivity problems.....Russia’s natural resources are without parallel, but its human capital is at major risk. A debilitated workforce is a barrier to economic success. EAPs and related workplace programs are not a panacea for what ails the Russian workforce, but employers and human resource professionals in Russia must invest in programs that can intervene, and hopefully prevent, the diseases and disorders largely caused by lifestyle risk factors."

To read the entire article, go to: http://www.globalhrnews.com/story.asp?sid=1215

Dalai Lama's 18 Rules for Living



At the start of the new millennium the Dalai Lama apparently issued eighteen rules for living. See how these work with your value system. I believe these rules are both inspiring and fundamental for happiness and a good life.

1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.
3. Follow the three Rs:
1. Respect for self
2. Respect for others
3. Responsibility for all your actions.

4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
7. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
8. Spend some time alone every day.
9. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.
10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
11. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.
12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
13. In disagreements with loved ones deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.
14. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.
15. Be gentle with the earth.
16. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.
17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

New Referral Alliance


We are please to announce that we are working with Health Connections, a home nursing company. From their website, I have copied the essence of their company.

"We are a provider of high-risk obstetrical homecare services for pregnant women in the Houston, Texas and Dallas-Fort Worth areas. Our company is committed to providing the highest quality homecare services to our pregnant patients. Through the use of our 24 Hour-a-Day/7 Day-a-Week Call Center, staffed by Registered Nurses with unparalleled experience in high-risk obstetrical care, Healthy Connections believes that we can help women and their unborn babies achieve the best possible pregnancy outcome without unnecessary hospital visits and expenses."

We are excited to be a referral source for the mental, emotional needs of their patients. Please check out their website at:http://www.hchcs.com/

The exciting thing about this affiliation is that we are going to be using teletherapy (internet based treatment) to help women on bed rest with high risk pregnancy problems. This is a really unique approach to psychotherapy and assessment moving toward the adjunctive treatment alternatives.

Twitter


Want to find out about what is going on moment by moment? Twitter is the answer. 140 characters or less gives you a snapshot and update. Check us out on Twitter.
Go to www.twitter.klaybor.com

COMPULSIVE HOARDING SIGNS

 In an article today in USA Today, It's called a hidden epidemic," said Megan O'Bryan, an Indianapolis clinical psychologist who specializes in obsessive-compulsive disorder and hoarding. "Hoarders are reluctant to reveal it. They are embarrassed by it but don't want to seek treatment." The roots of this problem lie in a diagnosis of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. These are the signs as reported by the International Obsessive Compulsive Disorder Association.

Accumulating of large amounts of clutter in the home, office or car, making it difficult to move around easily.
• Having difficulty getting rid of possessions because of an emotional attachment to them.
• Not being able to stop taking free items.
• Buying too many items because they are bargains or to stock up.
• Not inviting family or friends into the home because of embarrassment.
• Losing important items like money or bills in the clutter.
• Feeling overwhelmed by the volume of possessions that have taken over.



Source: International Obsessive Compulsive Disorder Foundation

If you, or some one you know suffers from this problem, get help. A combination of medication and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can relieve a lot of suffering. This is a painful and difficult problem that requires professional intervention.

6 Components to Aging Well


So, how do you feel about aging? Is your body holding up? Do you know what to do to help maximize aging well? Here are 6 components to aging with grace. Examine how you are doing with respect to each of these elements for yourself.

1) Relationships
2) Exercise
3) Eating right
4) Sleep
5) Novelty
6) Awarenes
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Od course, the objective is to maintain each one of these elements in your life. Let's talk about how to help you get on the right track for "awesome, rewarding and healthy aging."

What are your needs?


Take a moment to review this diagram. This is an overview of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs.

The basis of Maslow's motivation theory is that human beings are motivated by unsatisfied needs, and that certain lower factors need to be satisfied before higher needs can be satisfied. According to Maslow, there are general types of needs (physiological, survival, safety, love, and esteem) that must be satisfied before a person can act unselfishly. He called these needs "deficiency needs." As long as we are motivated to satisfy these cravings, we are moving towards growth, toward self-actualization.

Examine where you are on the scale to determine what needs will help you achieve personal growth. To motivate yourself, it is important to work to satisfy your inner needs. What is holding you back from achieving self-actualization?

Web Secret #111: 6 People Who Rock the Net


What an honor!!! Marina London, award winning blogger and computer guru has just listed me as one of her top people who rock on the net. Be sure to check out and subscribe to her up to date, informative, interesting, fun, creative, amazingly useful blog at: www.iWebU.blogspot.com. Here is the text of blog #111:

Part of my job is looking over hundreds of websites, blogs, Face Book pages, Twitters, and more every month. With that much on my plate, I only follow a very small group of experts on a regular basis. This blog post honors this select group:

1. Bill O'Hanlon - When I grow up, I want to be Bill O'Hanlon and it's not just because he lives in my favorite place in the whole world, Santa Fe. Bill is a therapist, an "A list" speaker, and a writer extraordinaire. In addition, he is a master marketer and has figured out how to make the World Wide Web and social media work for him. Visit www.billohanlon.com and you will discover his whirlwind of blogs, international speaking engagements, published books, newsletters, and more. Bill's Tech Boot Camp opened my eyes to blogging and social media in January 2008. Thank you Bill!

2. DeeAnna Nagel - Want to know what we will be doing in 2020 or 2030? DeeAnna knows...and she's probably doing it already. DeeAnna is one of the visionaries behind the Online Therapy Institute and the author of the recently published Therapy Online: A Practical Guide. When she isn't traveling around delivering important presentations, DeeAnna is hosting conferences and providing consultation in Second Life, a virtual world where OTI owns its own virtual building. So cool.

3. Jeff Bulla - Jeff is an internet and social media expert living in Sydney, Australia. He updates his eponymous blog JeffBullas.com brilliantly, virtually every day and I read it - every day - carefully. He mostly writes about how corporations use social media, or has advice about how they should use social media. His stuff is relevant to anyone trying to enhance their business and their branding - regardless of their field. His blog is my bible.

4. Will Baum - Will is a psychotherapist based in Los Angeles and the mind behind Where the Client Is. I am not sure exactly what Where the Client Is, is - is it a website, a blog, an online magazine, or something else? Who knows and who cares. All I know is it's the go to resource to build your private practice.

5. Michael Klaybor - Another new technology pioneer, Mike used his clinical expertise and fluent Russian to become one of the very first psychologists to deliver international consultation via Skype. He also creatively harnessed Twitter and blogging to provide support and counseling to the many isolated and anxious high risk pregnant women on bed rest via iRestAssured. Mike is an early adopter and can be relied upon to have the latest gadget, or gizmo du jour. He creates podcasts, webcasts, and has a black belt in karate. He is from the Midwest and speaks Russian. He reliably amazes me.

6. Gary Vaynerchuk - Gary sells wine. Why is he on my list? As a very young man, Gary was dragged into the family business, a local liquor store called Shoppers Discount Liquors. In 2006, Gary launched Wine Library TV, a daily video blog about wine. He could be seen in jeans and a t-shirt, sitting in his back yard, schmoozing expertly about wine. By 2008, this video trailblazer had raised the annual revenue of the store from $4 million to $60 million. You can watch Gary talk about wine, social media, and pursuing your dream on his website. Want to be inspired, entertained, and educated about the potential of social media to gain exposure? Visit GaryVaynerchuk.com.

May the Net be with you.

Inner Mental Training for Athletes Overview


A right mindset is one of the determinants of an athlete's performance, right along with his or her physical condition and technical skills. Just as there is a set of well-known physical characteristics of a champion (i.e., strength, speed, and stamina), there is a set of mental factors identified as part of a winner's mindset. They are confidence, concentration, consistency and control. Mindset is important for several reasons. Often this is the factor is the difference between being good or the best.
Research has revealed that at least 50 percent of athletic performance successes and even more athletic performance errors and failures are due to mental factors. Often times, talents plus physical and technical training can take athletes and teams only so far before they reach a performance plateau. Mental training will carry athletes to the next level.
In their practices, mental training for athletes incorporates many psychological principles, such as behavioral analysis, anxiety, arousal, attention, motivation, and aggression, personality assessment for individuals, and leadership and cohesion for teams. The specific techniques used in mental conditioning or inner mental training include:
• Autogenic Training: Learn about personal physiological responses to stress in order to control those responses.
• Imagery/Simulation: Mental rehearsal your performance.
• Positive Visualization: "See" yourself perform with excellence in your mind.
• Relaxation Training: Use various relaxation methods to help with consistency and performance.
• Concentration Training: Learn to tune out distracters and develop focusing strategies.
• Positive Thought Training / Cognitive Restructuring: Change thinking patterns: Catch negative thoughts and stop them; think positive instead.
• Biofeedback for relaxation
• Hypnosis for inner control
• Confidence Training: Develop your own way of building confidence.
• Emotion Regulation Training: Learn to regulate emotional responses to situations during competitions.
• Goal Setting: High but attainable goals often best motivate athletes.
• Thought Stopping and Cognitive Behavioral Control

Are You Addicted to the Past?

A very interesting article came my way that I want to share. In the Huffington Post http://www.huffingtonpost.com/, there is a concept for you to consider to see if you are stuck or plagued by problems in the past or unable to disconnect from bad feelings and a history of trauma.

Ask yourself, these 6 questions:

1. You Constantly Talk About the Past and the Way Things Used to Be
2. You Resist Change
3. You Continually Fail to Plan for a Better Future
4. You Argue for the Past that Things Used to Be Better
5. You've Allowed Relationships to Become Stale, Uninteresting and Without Passion
6. You have Physically or Mentally Peaked

So, do you suffer from an Addiction to the Past? If so, time to embrace change and move on.  

The article: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/tom-ferry/self-help-are-you-addicte_b_631620.html