Life Tools for Greater Happiness and Meaning

With 2010 quickly approaching, it is time to consider ideas to make your life better. In fact, obtain greater happiness. Here is my initial list:

1. Learn to say “No”
2. Deal with conflict
3. Ask for help
4. Express appreciation
5. Exercise
6. Eat enough fruits & vegetables
7. Makes a budget
8. Spend within the budget
9. Parenting consistently
10. Express your feelings
11. Have fun
12. Learn something new
13. Engage socially
14. Seek pleasure
15. Find meaning
16. Be mindful
17. Enhance your spiritual life

Be sure to add your own.

Divorce and Children

Being straight with the kids is very important when you are in the process of a divorce or separation. In a brief article from Mental Health CEs, there are five considerations for parents.

#1 Tell Them What’s Happening
#2 Reassure Them with Certainty
#3 Lift Blame
#4 Influence Their Development
#5 Avoiding Bad Mouthing

Most children feel a loss of control during marital discord. Have a family meeting to allow each member to ask questions and share their feelings about what is going on. Provide abundant reassurance that the divorce is NOT about them. Keep the marital problems between the adults and don't use the children to vent frustrations.

CAGE Questionnaire

Have you ever wondered what questions to ask to determine if someone is having a problem with alcohol? These 4 questions are a good starting place to assess next steps to take for help. CAGE takes the first letter of certain words in each question to determine to spell out CAGE: 1) CUT down, 2) ANNOYED, 3) GUILTY, 4) EYE OPENER.
Please check the one response to each item that best describes how you have felt and behaved over your whole life.
1. Have you ever felt you should cut down on your drinking?
• Yes
• No

2. Have people annoyed you by criticizing your drinking?
• Yes
• No

3. Have you ever felt bad or guilty about your drinking?
• Yes
• No

4. Have you ever had a drink first thing in the morning to steady your nerves or get rid of a hangover (eye-opener)?
• Yes
• No

Any question answered "YES" warrants additional assessment. Feel free to call if you have any questions or concerns.