Remaking Yourself


Yesterday, I had the privilege of attending an inspirational lecture by Larry Wilmore at the Wortham through the Progressive Forum Lecture Series. Larry Willmore just completed a book entitled, "I'd Rather We Got Casinos and Other Black Thoughts." Larry is a regular member of the cast of the Daily Show. He role is as th Senior Black Correspondent.

What impressed me about Larry Wilmore was his willingness to take risks to find his true voice and remain true to himself. His resume includes a career standup comedy, acting, writing for comedy shows (Bernie Mac Show, The Office, The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air and In Living Color). Even though has achieved success and obtained very prestigious awards including an Emmy and Peabody Award, he has pushed himself into new areas of learning constantly.

What have you done to challenge yourself lately? Where do you need to go to be inspired? When will you get started to pursue your true self?

Procrastination and Perfectionism

Two weeks ago, I gave a presentation to the faculty of MD Anderson Cancer Center. About 100 faculty members were in attendance. Below are a few of the highlights of the presentation.

The source or a great deal of suffering in life is found in these two concepts; procrastination and perfectionism. If you put things off and spend time in avoidance, you are escalating your suffering. Of course, you may feel the glory of waiting to the last minute and then have a last minute rally and get a euphoric boost of crossing the finish line. On one hand, you end up celebrating getting something done, but on the other hand, you have just reinforced your procrastination cycle.

The final blow is perfectionism. If you need everything perfect, it is hard to even get started on a project. Perfectionists never know when something is "good enough." So, what do you do?

Just get started. Break things down into workable components and eventually, you will get more done and release yourself from suffering and guilt. Then, spend time validating your efforts to psychologically reward yourself. So, go get started right now! Value your work and do your best. Dr. Mike

How to deal with these difficult economic times

If you are worried about what is happening with the economy, take a moment to review these ideas to help you cope and put things into perspective.

First and foremost, create or access a supportive environment of family, friends, and religious and spiritual affiliations. Talk to those who know you and love you. You can better withstand stress than if you are alone.
  • Be grateful for all that you have. Express gratitude on a regular basis.
  • Meditate. It's a great natural relaxing method that puts the brakes on speeding stress hormones. There are many different forms of meditation, and, of course, prayer. Yoga and Tai-Chi are effective as well. Find something that works for you and do it regularly.
  • Stress erodes health in many ways, major and minor.
  • Exercise. A brisk walk or workout takes your mind off problems.
  • Play with a pet or a grandchild.
  • Be available to others. We are all in this boat together.
  • Finally, put things into perspective: "Don't sweat the small stuff because it is all small stuff."