DiSC Workplace Role Behavior Profile

In an effort to understand how you function in the workplace, there is an excellent assessment instrument to show how you view your role in your career, how you function under stress, what motivates you and how to relate to others with  a different profile. This is a well researched instrument called the DiSC. This graphic show the 4 domains identified by this instrument. It may be worth your time to determine what motivates you, how to improve your leadership skills  and build supportive relationships in the workplace. Each quadrant you see in the different colors below have very specific qualities that determine how you come across and function in your work. Not one style or profile is "better" than another style, each has value and merit. The real question is how do you use this tool to relate to others, become more productive and enhance your value to the organization. If you want to see how your workplace expectations and style impacts your world of work, give me a call and we can set up an assessment to take the next steps to help you build your career. 

Training on Strarting, Selling and Running an EAP: Minneapolis 10/10/18

Everything you need to start and run an eap. Check out the link: 

EAP in a Box  

Life after Death of a Loved One

Stay connected with other family members – The last thing you need is to be isolated and alone. You need other people at this time more than any other. Contact with others is particularly important in the first six months following a loved one’s suicide. Note, grief is pretty messy at times. 
Stages of Grief: Elizabeth Kubler-Ross Updated Cycle. Grief does not flow linearly from one stage to another. The cycles can be circular moving from Shock to Anger or Denial. Your response will be influenced by many factors. Do not judge yourself by you reaction of others. Everyone grieves in their own time and own way. Trust your process, get help, stay connected. Isolating yourself slows, delays or perhaps even prevents the grief process. Recognize that these feelings are real. Your job is to acknowledge and allow them, even if they are painful, scary or make you anxious. Whats Your Grief? Excellent resource site for grief. 

Survival Suggestions
Those who have been through the process are often the best sources for survival suggestions. The following tips are a common theme among various self-help groups, grief counseling and treatment sites.
• It takes time to survive. You may not think you will survive, but you will.
• Lean on your faith to help get you through this crisis. If you aren’t affiliated with any specific religious group, do meditation and bring forth your own higher power to help you heal.
• Getting past your feelings of anger, shock, fear, guilt, relief, and depression is necessary – but it doesn’t mean you forget. You do need to “wear out” all those feelings, however, before you can begin to heal. Allow yourself to do so.
• “Why” is always important. Give yourself permission to find the answers until you are satisfied. If you can only obtain partial answers, and that is all that will be forthcoming, be satisfied with that so you can move on. Listed here are a few websites that may be helpful for suicide survivors:

For Suicide Survivorsforsuicidesurvivors.com/index.html, devoted to those who are grieving the loss of a loved one by suicide.
Suicide Survivors.orgwww.suicidesurvivors.org/, survivors of suicide help and information, Judy Raphael Kletter.
Surviving Suicidewww.survivingsuicide.com/cope.htm, provided by the surviving suicide support group of the Central Christian Church.
Suicide Support Groups
The following link to suicide support groups comes from Suicide.org, www.suicide.org/suicide-support-groups.html. Click on the state to be directed to a list of suicide survivor support groups in that state. There is also a link to suicide support groups in Canada.

APPS for improving mental health

There are many apps and choices for ways to manage your anxiety, depression, pain, stress and health. The trends are quite clear that technology is putting more responsibility in your hands to monitor, assess and treat manage many physical and mental conditions. Diabetes, hypertension, smoking cessation, and obesity just to name the major contributors of illness and death. Some of the top rated apps for helping yourself include the following: 
  • Stop, Breath, and Think
  • T2 Tracker
  • Thync
  • Cook + Cure
  • Expectful
  • MindMate
  • Headspace
40 Health Apps to Consider  Find what you deem most beneficial for your health, mind, body, working out or just to know heart rate or how to meditate. Make technology your friend to help you relax, manage stress and improve your health.

Pain & Chronic Illnes=Depression & Anxiety

There is no doubt that where there is pain, a chronic disease, or an injury, there will be emotional issues arise that are inevitable. After an injury or diagnosis of a health problem or crisis, it is likely there will be collateral emotional/mental health issues arise. Be on the lookout for getting depressed, feeling anxious about further treatment and fear of the what might happen to you or your life. It is pretty common to go through a grief process of denial, bargaining, depression and anger before arriving at a place of acceptance. This process can take years depending on the severity of the illness, pain, type of surgery, rehabilitation needed and support system in place. As you can see by this graphic, the prevalence of health and mental health problems in the U.S. is quite extensive. Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT), can help you manage your symptoms, pain, stress and fear. Mindfulness, relaxation, mental imagery, biofeedback, hypnosis and meditation are tools and techniques that can be taught to help give you relief or comfort. There is no need to suffer in silence or tolerate pain and fear because there is help and remedies that can provide relief. Be prepared to Coordinate you medical treatment  with psychological help. This link will describe mindfulness and the benefits. There are programs, classes available online and well as in hospitals and with mental health Mindfulness Study.  Inquire around to find therapist who specialize in working with physical and psychological issues. These tools help you take control of your life and release you from fear, anxiety and depression. 

Election to EAPA Board of Directors

I am very please to announce that I was just notified that I have been elected to the Employee Assistance Professionals Association Board of Directors. This is an auspicious board and wonderful opportunity to contribute to the future of the association. 

Trauma Recovery & Boundaries

When addressing a traumatic event in your life that has been a secret, avoided or too terrifying to confront, there are some essential elements to consider to help yourself feel safe. Vulnerability, boundaries, and empowerment are crucial when you have been abused. This posting relates to all person's that have been violated in some way. Sharon Martin, LCSW developed the list on the right to provide guidance for developing healthy boundaries. When sexual, physical or verbal abuse happens at an early age, there is no chance to protect yourself or even understand that it is a violation, which is NOT YOUR FAULT. Your recovery and sense of power to take control of yourself, relationships and emotions depends empowering your thoughts, actions and choices to protect yourself, create a sense of safety, and trust your instincts when your gut tells you "danger." As a child, you were violated, which made you confused, fearful and damaged your ability to trust, feel safe or protected. Taking your power back means saying no, recognizing your limits and dealing with personal safety. To survive any trauma, the mind has means to dissociate from the experience, however, this causes problems over time when you want to connect intimately with someone else. To recover from abuse, there are some essential elements to enhance resiliency:
  • Safety
  • Trust
  • Choice
  • Empowerment
  • Authenticity
  • Re-connection to your body, emotions, sexuality and physical touch
Psychotherapy helps make you feel whole again with intimate relationships. You don't have to live life avoiding your past and fears. Trauma recovery is possible with support, at a pace and place that is safe and manageable. Your instincts will guide you on who to trust and what is working to help free you up from fear and the past. Trauma Informed Care has a resource guide.  This is a trauma cycle showing an internal dialogue and feeling that accompany betrayal. 

This link will get you to it. Trauma Informed Care Resources